Intention is the forerunner of every action we take and paths the way for what we reap.
Intention can be the difference between a discussion and an argument.
We often don’t realise that when we are trying to raise a sensitive subject the receiver in the situation does not always pick up on the intention as it may not be consciously and clearly focused and sent.
I am sure we have all experienced a discussion that seems to explode out of control and ends up in a shouting match as we are left bemused as to how it got so out of hand.
There are also times where we pick up on an intention that is perhaps not feeling comfortable for us despite the speaker’s choice of soothing words.
The majority of interactions can be misinterpreted if we are attempting to communicate with someone who is in a disempowering emotional state. Sometimes no matter what we say it is going to be met with the current mood of the receiver. Pick your moment!
However, when we are more aware of our own intention it can make a vital difference. The intention is usually simple such as – to show love or to create harmony but can be hidden by criticism and judgement that clouds the whole delivery of the message. The positive intention when quantified is easier to convey. Stating a positive intention before an interaction is helpful for both the speaker and the receiver. A bridge can be built to the receiver’s world just by being more explicit. A verbal version of sending a gift who could resist!
Carefully Constructed Words
Before any interaction that could raise some raw emotion, it is advisable to think carefully about the words. Remember to remove any blaming language or emotive perceptions. Stick to the facts and separate out your emotions from the actions of the other person.
The reactions you would receive from the following statements would be completely the opposite ends of the spectrum. Imagine receiving these statements and how you would feel:
You didn’t take out the bins and it really upsets me that you are so lazy. You never get things done!
When the bins were not taken out yesterday, I felt upset. It is important to me that we work as a team, would it work better for you on another day?
When we blame as in the first statement the receiver stops listening and therefore, we continue to feel upset with no movement towards a better resolution. This method could breed resentment into the relationship.
The second statement allows the speaker to own the emotions while stating the factual situation and their need in a positive way that will more likely heard and understood. It also incorporates an option to negotiate a new win-win agreement.
Tone of Voice
To deliver this statement effectively tone of voice completely changes and enhances the intention. We have all been made to apologise to our siblings as young children and been witness to the complaints that we didn’t say it like we really meant it.
Tone of voice either confirms or denies the words we choose.
Intention underpins all of our communication even when we don’t say anything our energy is communicating something and stonewalling leads to complete breakdown of relationships so don’t leave it to chance be concise and careful that your message fits with your intention.
If we want to avoid any miscommunication it is crucial that the intention fits with the words and supports the tone of voice. Intention comes from the heart and being aware and consciously creating our positive intention ahead of the discussion is invaluable in keeping the message clear and at the highest possible intention.
When intention is of this high calibre it is easier to express an honest transaction that does not demand but rather opens up discussion for a mutually beneficial result.
Whether we are aware of it or not we are constantly sending out intention which is felt by those around us as our energy frequency is regulated by our emotional state which influences our intention.
Intention and the Written Word
It is far more challenging to put intention into the written word when we are constantly sending texts and E-Mails. Remember the receiver reads these messages in their current emotional state and we completely rely on the efficacy of the chosen words.
However, it can be achieved when we first take time to become aware of our own emotional state. We can scan our energy field to see if it is in alignment with effectively delivering the message and conducive with being connected to our heart.
When we achieve this heart harmony it allows us to effortlessly infuse the words with loving honest intention. When we request an action or response it is wise to also recognise the receiver’s challenges in meeting with the request.
We may not always get what we want, but in any negotiation the purpose is to move towards a resolution by speaking to the receiver’s heart which creates a sense of safety and openness to engage.
'Be mindful of intention. Intention is the seed that creates the future'
Jack Kornfield
Pure Heart Led Intention
Heart led intention is a vehicle for directing our own life and becomes more powerful when it is pure.
Pure intention is the difference between trying something and just going for it. The difference between dipping your toe into the swimming pool and jumping full pelt off of the diving board. When you surrender to an intention there is a force that is greater than ourselves that takes over. It is the permission the universe has been waiting for to put the wheels in motion and send the synchronicities and the people needed to carry out our committed intentions.
Many of us don’t find it easy to surrender and equate it to giving up but surrender is a supreme act of faith. It is allowing the energy we have created with our intention to gain power, expand and move under its own volition with a sense of knowing we have lit the spark and it is only our role to observe the path it carves. A lesson in releasing the need to control.
Imagine that unbridled purposeful unstoppable leap from the diving board and the inevitable resulting splash. The force was created by you but the water displacement and seemingly never- ending waves and ripples cannot be reined in.
As people our greatest achievements happen when we join in mutual intention. When we raise our own frequency with meditation, EFT or other energy modalities we cannot help but affect those around us. The effects are infinite and the majority of the time we are creating some form of intention without realising the potential benefits when finely tuned and directed.
The power of prayer has been researched and documented over time and defies the belief of some. But for those who understand the power of the frequency they are creating it is inevitable that their directed high frequency energy and intention will have a beneficial effect.
When we reflect on our own habits and lifestyles with the intention of honest disclosure it can be revealing and powerful to become aware of just how powerful we are in manifesting our own vehicles of evolution.
When we implement pure heart led intention be open and ready for change it is inevitable.
The critical question before any conscious shift in thought, habit and action is:
‘What is my pure and heart felt intention?’
Karen Oliver
karen4@e-motionalsolutions.co.uk
www.e-motionalsolutions.co.uk
